I have an area of expertise. I am a guy. I have been a guy for about 40 years. And I am a parent. I have been a parent for about 7 years. Therefore, my “guy skills” are greater than my “parenting skills” by a ratio of almost 6 to 1. Christmas is about that thing that frightens guys more than anything else in the universe, except for a local playoff blackout – Christmas is about birth.
Yes, Christmas is about birth. Now I am at a disadvantage when it comes to this topic. Because what I know about birth really comes only second hand. Something I have discovered over the last 7 years is that holding a baby is an acquired skill – at least for guys. Guys are not natural baby holders. Guys know how to hold things – BBQ utensils, remote controls, seasons tickets. But guys learn how to hold babies only by comparing babies to footballs. You sort of cradle it in here and tuck it like this so that no one can tackle you and take it away. That is how guys learn to hold babies. It’s just not natural for us.
It’s an acquired skill – it takes practice, and sometimes we would rather just hand off the baby to someone else. It makes us feel self conscious – am I doing it right? What if I drop it or it starts to cry? And the question which is most often on guys’ minds in these situations; “Do I look stupid?” We are like that with Jesus. We really don’t know what to do with Him. We don’t know how to hold on to Him. We are afraid that if we actually try, we will look stupid.
Then there is the birth announcement. Guys are usually excited, but don’t know what to say. If you are lucky, you get a few phone calls, you might even go whole hog and put something in the paper. Not this baby. What does His Father do for a birth announcement? Let’s put a star up in the sky, and get a few singers: “And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, "Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace”.
And then there is the question – so what’s he going to be when he grows up?
“For a child has been born for us, a son given to us; authority rests upon his shoulders; and he is named Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
His authority shall grow continually, and there shall be endless peace for the throne of David and his kingdom. He will establish and uphold it with justice and with righteousness from this time onward and forevermore. The zeal of the LORD of hosts will do this.”
Got high hopes for your boy, do you? If you come back to visit Jesus at Easter, we will see that He is grown. Sometimes we are amazed when we haven’t seen someone for a while. Then we come for another visit and we see how they have grown. God not only has high hopes for his boy, He has high hopes for you. Higher hopes than you have for yourself.
After they all come home from the hospital, guys discover one more thing about babies that they had never considered before. Something that they knew about, but had never really given much thought to. Something so mysterious and awe-ful and stupendous that most of the guys I know, myself included, simply pretend that we don’t know how to do it. And here it is. It’s called change.
Where ever there are babies, there are going to be some of these – diapers. Babies and diapers go together like – well, let’s just stop right there. Babies are all about change. As a father of 4, I can say that babies are about constant change. Everyday. Small changes, and big changes. Some changes are easy to deal with. Some are rather messy. The highest level of alert in our house is called a “hose down”.
The good news about this baby – Jesus – is that you don’t have to change Him. Instead, he is going to change you. Big messes, small messes, daily messes. Change is a necessary part of this whole picture. What kind of change does God want? God became like us – Jesus was born, so that we could become like God – we can be reborn.
The last thing that I have noticed about parenting is the ultimate test. One of the tests of a person for me is “do they like my kids”? If you like my kids, then you are okay in my books. And that is God’s only requirement. The heavenly Father sits up there in heaven, looks down, and says “So how do like my son? What do you think of Him?” And most of all, he asks “Do you love Him”? That is what God is really interested in. Do you love Jesus? Do you make time for him? Do you want to get to know Him.
Even guys, in the very center of their beings, know that there is something real to this thing called love.
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